The Old Fashion Wife

             A tired mom has had a rough day. She's dealt with a tantrum filled day with her toddler and decides to go to lunch when her husband gets home from work. She's in baggy sweat pants, pulled up dirty hair, baggy shirt, and slip on shoes. She's feeling run down in every department. Emotionally she deals with feelings of inadequacy in her abilities as a mother. Her toddler is still in tantrum mode in the restaurant, leaving her with heightened feelings of inadequacy in her motherhood. She wonders how her husband still looks at her and thinks she's beautiful. She wonders what others are thinking about her and her tantrum toddler while she waits for her husband to get their food. Looks like a disaster, right?              Suddenly an older woman approaches her and her son. The mother didn't even realize this woman was paying attention to her at all. She looks at the older woman to try and hear over everyone wh...

             Life has been so crazy! My updates on my life are I'm pregnant with baby #2! After much consideration and prayer Garrett and I decided it was time for another spirit to join our family. A baby girl will be adding to our craziness February of 2019. When we announced to my family that we were pregnant with a little girl, my sister later came to tell me that she felt very strongly that this baby was needed at this time. Her husband also privately told my husband the same thing. Oddly enough, we've felt overwhelming inspired how much this little girl needs to join our family at this time. How amazing to hear that same inspiration coming from someone outside of your little family? It was a huge testimony builder. It added to our excitement seeing how happy those 2 were for us. Now, as weird as it is, this post isn't necessarily going to be surrounding the news of this little girl. More our little girl will be a secondary reason to write this po...

             Soooooo hey y'all!! We've moved into a bigger place & I've barely had time to breath so I apologize for the absence. But I finally have something I feel very strongly about. Does anyone ever sit and wonder, why don't I have any close friends? As a millennial, it's hard not to get caught up in seeing people tag their friends in memes, videos, or photos. You sit and think "man, I wish I had friends." But is anyone else the type that has people reaching out as friends and you think, "wow. Having friends is hard." Now that may be where I'm at in life. I've got a husband and son to take care of so my time is very limited. But I often wonder why I don't have friends!              My therapist has analyzed me as a person & has categorized me as an amiable person. My primary personality is amiable and my secondary is expressive. Amiable people pay attention to detail. They don't want just a fun conversat...

            It's mother's day and it's a day to reflect and appreciate our mothers. But I'd like to just speak to women in general today. We have mothering from the time we're little. Some women prepare they're whole lives to become a mother and sadly never become mother's but are mothers to those around them. Some women are mother's who never knew they wanted to even be a mother until they were a mother. Some women are mother's but never quite feel good enough or that they deserve what they have. Some women aren't mother's yet but are preparing themselves for that phase of they're lives. But nonetheless, this post is for you.              Being a mother is literally putting someone's life into your hands. So no wonder we all think we're failing. We have the closest glimpse of what Heavenly Father's love for us feels like and we want the absolute best for them. But at the same time we're humans who mess up. We fail daily ...

             This is a blog post that scares me. But I've been contemplating for weeks on how to write it. Because it needs to be written. Why? I feel an incredible need to make sure people don't feel alone in their trials. Please bare with me if this is ill written, this is a huge act of courage on my part to write this. Suicidal thoughts are something I'm very familiar with. I hate saying that. It's such a hell like state to be in. It's something that people hate admitting. But also something NO ONE talks about. Because it's a VERY serious and scary topic. This title may seem completely off topic for this post but it actually is what this post is all about.              I have suffered with depression my whole life. At times I have been a master at hiding it. Others it might as well be written on my forehead. I can remember some dark times dating back to 12 years old when I was severely bullied in my young womens. ...

             We all know who our worst critic is, right? Ourselves! Old news. We constantly compare ourselves, talk down to ourselves, and beat ourselves up. Anyone who says they don't do that, isn't telling the whole truth. I'm not talk every minute of every day. But we all do it every so often. Social media makes that even more prevalent in our lives. We don't follow the people's who's pictures aren't in the perfect lighting and not with a $500+ camera. We insist on following and stalking the "perfect" people. Then we sit and beat ourselves up because we just had cake for breakfast and don't have a beach body. But tell ourselves "I'll do better tomorrow!". Just to be met with another "failure" in the social media world. We hide from social media and hope everyone thinks we're just too busy to post on social media.              Now don't misunderstand this post. This isn't a post of just "stop beating ...

             You know when you're scrolling through Facebook and a random video or meme pops up and you wonder why is this here? Then you realize because a friend of yours tagged another friend in it & now your whole feed is full of memes that others people have tagged their friends in? It's pretty frustrating, huh? You may be wondering "Why is she starting a post called 'Why getting married young was the best decision I ever made' like this?" Because a meme popped up(I don't remember what it was about or what it said) but a girl I knew through high school and church wrote something bashing people who get married young and quick. A part of her comment that she tagged someone in that bothered me was she said something along the lines of "That's why you don't get married at 18 after knowing each other for 4 months lol". That's okay that she said that. She has a right to her opinion. But frankly, her opinion was judgment and rude. Es...

             It seems no matter where you look there's something terrible happening. It seems this post could be about ANYTHING really. There's so much we need to start doing to make this world a little better. How could we possibly choice one?! Obviously this isn't the only thing we need to start doing. And there may be some of you who can be good at it, if that's you, then improve even more! We all know we need to be kind. Ellen says it at the end of every show! But I feel there's a lack of this thing in the world: verbalizing compliments.               We all can admit that we see someone and think "I really like her hair!" Or "That guy's shirt is awesome!" Did you regret saying it? You probably just told yourself "That'd be weird. It's a stranger." Or "They wouldn't care if I said it or not anyways." But you don't know what a simple compliment can do for a person. There day could have been going terrib...

             Today is International Women's Day. How amazing right? A day just to remember just how strong women are! I love it! Women deal with a lot of things. Two of the biggest things being: sexual harassment and inequality. But women today are breaking to mold of silence! They're standing up! They're speaking out! No matter the cost. So in honor of International Women's Day I thought I'd share with you why YOU need self-care!              If you don't know what self-care is already, let me fill you in. It's doing something that makes YOU happy. Makes you happy to be alive! But most of all it's something that makes you love yourself. Self-care can be serving someone, making a list of things you love about yourself(on the inside and out), going for a walk through nature WITHOUT technology, doing your hair cute, taking a bubble bath, doing yoga, meditating, eating your favorite meal, treating yourself. Anything tha...

             I have yet to meet 1 person who didn't like The Greatest Showman! My husband and I still can't stop listening to the sound track. It has so many lesson someone can learn from it. To not let money and fame be your main focus in life. That family is all the matters. You can find "your people" in life. You don't have to be ashamed of being different. That true love can defy all odds. Yet, the lesson that hits me the hardest is the title of my post today. This is me.              What a strong, unapologetic, and confident statement to make. THIS. IS. ME. No more, no less. A beautiful, glorious, and strong being. It makes me think about why this song has become so popular. A big factor is the actress who sings the song, Keala Settle. She is a standard for us all. Someone who I'd imagine has worked her tail off for her big break. And suddenly here it is. Happening all so fast. She may have almost given up. She...

             We live in the digital age, where people depend their worth by likes & followers. It's sad isn't it? Doesn't it sometimes make you wonder, will it ever end? How did we get here? How is it that some people go a whole day without even interacting without having a real face-to-face interaction with another fellow human? Yet that is the world we live in. Parents must learn how to manage every aspect of a computer just to keep their kids out of the dangers the internet can bring to them.              So why is my title "The Illusion of a Lifetime"? Because there a huge, deceitful, and extremely harmful illusion we face today. It isn't discriminating of race, gender, religion, ect., it effects us all. It is the illusion of pure bliss in our lives. It's the illusion of perfection. It's showing your kids looking so happy and in harmony with each other. It's you posting a "candid" photo of you and your partne...

             Hello all! I had the best experience this week! My anxiety has always been an issue for me. Social and general anxiety have sometimes been really hard to handle. But I've had the most amazing experience having a cat with my anxiety. I've always wanted to get a dog or cat but never have been able to. Or at least I've always stopped myself from a pet. But it's been so much better than I expected. I think it's SO important to learn to manage your anxiety. Figure out your triggers and make sure you're learning how to calm yourself down.              A few nights ago I was laying in bed and I heard a helicopter flying above me. I didn't think anything of it. But then I heard it over and over and over again. Then I suddenly started seeing the spotlight of the helicopter flashing into our bedroom. Freaky, right? So my anxiety jumped so fast! I started frantically looking up all the possibilities as to why a hel...

             Let's talk about being mother's and wives, shall we? It's exhausting sometimes. It seems as though you've given your all and still you must give more. There have been days where I have barely slept and yet there's so much I have to do. Some days seem to be a breeze. Then the next day can be completely opposite! What can you do? It sometimes feels like it's just inevitable right? IT IS NOT! Let's dive in!              I am extremely passionate about a lot of things. Garrett thinks it's so funny when I start getting hyped up about things. I am convinced we live in a society where getting excited about something isn't "cool" or it's considered "immature". I have yet to meet someone who is just enthusiastic about life! When I get passionate about something I can't help but feel a huge need to share it with the world! Self-care is one of those things. Why not get passionate about this? I've seen what self-car...

             I was thinking of asking a few ladies if they'd want to attend a class where I help them with their make-up. I'd bring my supplies and tell them to bring everything they have. Then I'd follow with tips and tricks to allow them to have an easier time with their make-up. But then I got to wondering why they wouldn't have tried experimenting with make-up themselves. Here's my theory.              We as women are constantly comparing ourselves. Our lives, kids, husbands, and ourselves. Including our make-up and make-up skills. The only reason I feel comfortable in my make-up abilities, which really aren't that great, is I looked up videos and figured it out. But before I had, I'd try something new with my make-up and be so self conscious. When I first tried contouring I had a sister-in-law's mom rub off my contour and say "Oh Whitney, don't do that! You look like you have dirt on your face!" I was horrified!...