Our Worst Critic
We all know who our worst critic is, right? Ourselves! Old news. We constantly compare ourselves, talk down to ourselves, and beat ourselves up. Anyone who says they don't do that, isn't telling the whole truth. I'm not talk every minute of every day. But we all do it every so often. Social media makes that even more prevalent in our lives. We don't follow the people's who's pictures aren't in the perfect lighting and not with a $500+ camera. We insist on following and stalking the "perfect" people. Then we sit and beat ourselves up because we just had cake for breakfast and don't have a beach body. But tell ourselves "I'll do better tomorrow!". Just to be met with another "failure" in the social media world. We hide from social media and hope everyone thinks we're just too busy to post on social media.
Now don't misunderstand this post. This isn't a post of just "stop beating yourselves up"! No no no my friends. The purpose of this post is to hopefully open at least one individuals eyes to a truth we don't remember. While we are our worst critics, we forget that we are the PERFECT cheerleader for ourselves. Guess who knows exactly how to react to your exciting news? YOU. Because when you tell your close friend and you don't get the response you pictured in your mind. We forget that we know what reaction we want to our problems, triumphs, and failures.
Have you ever just been so pumped up about something and you go to someone to tell what you're pumped about and they react with a "That's so cool." We completely are crushed of all the cheering we'd done for ourselves. We know how to make ourselves happy. Sometimes it is our of our control. But my point is, you can always help yourself even a little when you're down. Because just like we know how to spiral our depression or sadness to us laying in bed all day looking at how "perfect" everyone's life is. We also can pump ourselves up even for a moment. We can say positive affirmations to ourselves(thanks to my amazing mother-in-law who introduced me to guided meditations). We can get up and get ready for the day. Even if that's our only accomplishment. Some days, that's my only accomplishment. And even if no one else recognizes it as an accomplishment, I still do.
There's is only 1 person in the whole entire existence who doesn't want you to succeed. Truthfully. Honestly. Only 1. Satan wants to make you miserable because he has dug himself into a deep dark miserable hole himself. He knew you in the pre-existence just like our Father in Heaven and Savior did. But our power is SO MUCH STRONGER than his. He is NOTHING compared to us. He truly gets intimidated by us. He is an idiot who has been trying to take down every man since Adam. But he WILL NOT succeed. We know he won't because God is ruler over all. He knows he's going to lose. So he's gonna try and take down as many as he can, while he can. He's a toddler throwing a tantrum, knowing HIS GOD will succeed.
Do not let him win. Am I typing this to you, while needing to hear it myself? Of course! No one's life is perfect. Yours will never be "perfect". Stop waiting for that 1 thing that will magically make you happy. That's co-dependency and it's not healthy. True happiness is having a healthy mental state. Not constantly staring at a screen. But being present. In your everyday life. Without a phone glued to your hand. You and only you can truly be your biggest cheerleader. Your mom, sister, best friend, dog, or significant other doesn't know you like you know yourself.
The only other people than ourselves that can truly help us, are our Savior, God, and the Holy Ghost. They are always looking out for us and only us. They aren't thinking of themselves. Only them. Let them in. Let them help. Truly learn how to be your biggest cheerleader. Learn to love yourself. I can say that, but I'm still learning it myself. I don't love myself mentally. I struggle everyday to sometimes think of 1 thing I love about myself mentally. But I will NEVER give up. Because I know who I am. And I will learn to love myself fully. Because no one can make me happy. They can't force me to be happy. I have to do that on my own. And so do you.
Now don't misunderstand this post. This isn't a post of just "stop beating yourselves up"! No no no my friends. The purpose of this post is to hopefully open at least one individuals eyes to a truth we don't remember. While we are our worst critics, we forget that we are the PERFECT cheerleader for ourselves. Guess who knows exactly how to react to your exciting news? YOU. Because when you tell your close friend and you don't get the response you pictured in your mind. We forget that we know what reaction we want to our problems, triumphs, and failures.
Have you ever just been so pumped up about something and you go to someone to tell what you're pumped about and they react with a "That's so cool." We completely are crushed of all the cheering we'd done for ourselves. We know how to make ourselves happy. Sometimes it is our of our control. But my point is, you can always help yourself even a little when you're down. Because just like we know how to spiral our depression or sadness to us laying in bed all day looking at how "perfect" everyone's life is. We also can pump ourselves up even for a moment. We can say positive affirmations to ourselves(thanks to my amazing mother-in-law who introduced me to guided meditations). We can get up and get ready for the day. Even if that's our only accomplishment. Some days, that's my only accomplishment. And even if no one else recognizes it as an accomplishment, I still do.
There's is only 1 person in the whole entire existence who doesn't want you to succeed. Truthfully. Honestly. Only 1. Satan wants to make you miserable because he has dug himself into a deep dark miserable hole himself. He knew you in the pre-existence just like our Father in Heaven and Savior did. But our power is SO MUCH STRONGER than his. He is NOTHING compared to us. He truly gets intimidated by us. He is an idiot who has been trying to take down every man since Adam. But he WILL NOT succeed. We know he won't because God is ruler over all. He knows he's going to lose. So he's gonna try and take down as many as he can, while he can. He's a toddler throwing a tantrum, knowing HIS GOD will succeed.
Do not let him win. Am I typing this to you, while needing to hear it myself? Of course! No one's life is perfect. Yours will never be "perfect". Stop waiting for that 1 thing that will magically make you happy. That's co-dependency and it's not healthy. True happiness is having a healthy mental state. Not constantly staring at a screen. But being present. In your everyday life. Without a phone glued to your hand. You and only you can truly be your biggest cheerleader. Your mom, sister, best friend, dog, or significant other doesn't know you like you know yourself.
The only other people than ourselves that can truly help us, are our Savior, God, and the Holy Ghost. They are always looking out for us and only us. They aren't thinking of themselves. Only them. Let them in. Let them help. Truly learn how to be your biggest cheerleader. Learn to love yourself. I can say that, but I'm still learning it myself. I don't love myself mentally. I struggle everyday to sometimes think of 1 thing I love about myself mentally. But I will NEVER give up. Because I know who I am. And I will learn to love myself fully. Because no one can make me happy. They can't force me to be happy. I have to do that on my own. And so do you.
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