Why getting married young was the best decision I ever made
You know when you're scrolling through Facebook and a random video or meme pops up and you wonder why is this here? Then you realize because a friend of yours tagged another friend in it & now your whole feed is full of memes that others people have tagged their friends in? It's pretty frustrating, huh? You may be wondering "Why is she starting a post called 'Why getting married young was the best decision I ever made' like this?" Because a meme popped up(I don't remember what it was about or what it said) but a girl I knew through high school and church wrote something bashing people who get married young and quick. A part of her comment that she tagged someone in that bothered me was she said something along the lines of "That's why you don't get married at 18 after knowing each other for 4 months lol". That's okay that she said that. She has a right to her opinion. But frankly, her opinion was judgment and rude. Especially because she had to have known that all her friends would scroll pass that with this weird new feature Facebook has added. So with this long introduction I will now proceed to tell you all the reasons that getting married young was the best decision I ever made!
Getting married is a huge scary deal. You're combining and mixing your life with someone else's. You should do it with great caution and thought. But once you do find that one person, it is a wonderful and beautiful thing. I know many women who have regretted getting married but for various reasons don't feel they should leave their husbands. It's sad when that happens. But when you find someone who you truly just want to be happy and have a mutual dedication to being there for each other through thick and thin, it's amazing. Being married young has made that dedication even more prominent because of the stigma that we're "too inexperienced" and "naive". I truly believe that for those reasons we endure things better. We still have an optimism to us when approaching blending 2 lives together. But those stigmas that seem to be shameful actually fuel a lot of the fire's of the young married couples. We feel more of a dedication to do everything in our power to make our marriages work.
Being married young makes it easier to work together and compromise. I truly believe I needed to marry young so I wouldn't be "stuck in my ways". Because I'm young I want to be able to make both my husband and I happy. I want to find the option that best suites me. I watched a show called Married At First Sight where singles are paired up and meet their spouse at the alter and are given help to make their marriage work. Every single was so focused on "me. me. me. me. me." Not once did I hear one of them say "I hope _____ is okay through this experiment". It was always "This experiment is so hard for me". Being married young has made it so I am more adaptable to making sure my husband and I are in unity with our decisions.
The positive of being married young that I am continually reminded of is this: DATING SUCKS. I hated dating. And even when I knew for sure a guy would try things out with me, I'd lay it out on the table and suddenly the guy had changed his mind. Singles are in such a weird mindset that once you're out of that mindset you realize "Wow. Did I act like that?" I'm happy to have been married young because I don't have to be scarred by guys "ghosting" me or blindsiding me or just being jerks. I get to have my one and only to be like "Guess what? We're married so let's talk things out like adults and work it out."
Financially speaking, I feel getting married has been a great benefit. Neither of us have been to college. So there's no "You brought so much debt into this marriage!" Suddenly accumulating the debt was a mutual decision. Being broke and married is a lot less scary and lonely than being broke and single. You have a partner to look at and say "Okay. What do we do now?" That is a comforting thought. Then once you've become settled financially and well established, you both will be able to truly appreciate the financial hardship that has gotten you to this point.
To sum it all up, everyone has their own path. Garrett's and mine just happen to line up perfectly. Truthfully, if we'd met sooner I would have has one path that was left unseen. and who knows if I may have been looking back wondering "what if...". But because of the timeline, Garrett and I were able to look excitedly to our future with absolute certainty we were meant to be together forever. The time you get married will be perfect for you! This isn't a bashing of someone who got married later or sooner. This is my own personal experience speaking of why it was great and the benefits I've found through getting married young to my sweetheart.
Getting married is a huge scary deal. You're combining and mixing your life with someone else's. You should do it with great caution and thought. But once you do find that one person, it is a wonderful and beautiful thing. I know many women who have regretted getting married but for various reasons don't feel they should leave their husbands. It's sad when that happens. But when you find someone who you truly just want to be happy and have a mutual dedication to being there for each other through thick and thin, it's amazing. Being married young has made that dedication even more prominent because of the stigma that we're "too inexperienced" and "naive". I truly believe that for those reasons we endure things better. We still have an optimism to us when approaching blending 2 lives together. But those stigmas that seem to be shameful actually fuel a lot of the fire's of the young married couples. We feel more of a dedication to do everything in our power to make our marriages work.
Being married young makes it easier to work together and compromise. I truly believe I needed to marry young so I wouldn't be "stuck in my ways". Because I'm young I want to be able to make both my husband and I happy. I want to find the option that best suites me. I watched a show called Married At First Sight where singles are paired up and meet their spouse at the alter and are given help to make their marriage work. Every single was so focused on "me. me. me. me. me." Not once did I hear one of them say "I hope _____ is okay through this experiment". It was always "This experiment is so hard for me". Being married young has made it so I am more adaptable to making sure my husband and I are in unity with our decisions.
The positive of being married young that I am continually reminded of is this: DATING SUCKS. I hated dating. And even when I knew for sure a guy would try things out with me, I'd lay it out on the table and suddenly the guy had changed his mind. Singles are in such a weird mindset that once you're out of that mindset you realize "Wow. Did I act like that?" I'm happy to have been married young because I don't have to be scarred by guys "ghosting" me or blindsiding me or just being jerks. I get to have my one and only to be like "Guess what? We're married so let's talk things out like adults and work it out."
Financially speaking, I feel getting married has been a great benefit. Neither of us have been to college. So there's no "You brought so much debt into this marriage!" Suddenly accumulating the debt was a mutual decision. Being broke and married is a lot less scary and lonely than being broke and single. You have a partner to look at and say "Okay. What do we do now?" That is a comforting thought. Then once you've become settled financially and well established, you both will be able to truly appreciate the financial hardship that has gotten you to this point.
To sum it all up, everyone has their own path. Garrett's and mine just happen to line up perfectly. Truthfully, if we'd met sooner I would have has one path that was left unseen. and who knows if I may have been looking back wondering "what if...". But because of the timeline, Garrett and I were able to look excitedly to our future with absolute certainty we were meant to be together forever. The time you get married will be perfect for you! This isn't a bashing of someone who got married later or sooner. This is my own personal experience speaking of why it was great and the benefits I've found through getting married young to my sweetheart.
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