Where Do We Go From Here?
Before Hudson was born I realized something about myself as a mother. It was something I didn't expect from myself. I am usually very high strung and controlling. But as I was approaching my due date I realized I was very confident in the things I'd decide to do.
I have been so confident in my decisions as a mother. I would like to lay out my thinking in my mothering instincts so far. I am confident that my Heavenly Father will guide me in motherhood adventures. My Father in Heaven will allow me to know what is best for MY child. Now I must say, I in no way judge any other mother for what they decided is best for their child. I have been judged because people assume I judge them because of my decision. Which hurts because I do profess how amazing my experiences with my decisions have been. But I would NEVER judge another mother for her decisions.
I know I will be judged, talked about, and criticized for the way I parent and raise my son. But I don't care. Because the benefits I have seen from my choices have made motherhood so amazing for me. Let's begin!
Breastfeeding: I was very determined to breastfeed. I prayed my whole pregnancy that I'd be able to breastfeed which gave me the faith that it would DEFINITELY work. Once I began breastfeeding my faith only grew more with how swiftly and amazing my experience was. I had a little bit of a hard time at first but once I was able to get ahold of the amazing Ronnie Peralta who is a retired midwife to come over and help me and give me a few tips and tricks and from then on it was smooth sailing except a few hiccups. Breastfeeding has been one of the biggest blessings I've had through motherhood. Breastfeeding release the happy chemical within yourself and your baby. I plan on breastfeeding my baby until he is 1 but if he doesn't seem to be stopping, then I'm not going to make him stop. Extended breastfeeding is SO judged! But breastmilk is literally liquid gold so if my baby wants it past one, WHY NOT??? LOL.
Co-Sleeping: Co-sleeping is also known as bed sharing. Since day 1 Hudson has slept with me. There is a safe way to co-sleep and there is a stupid/ignorant way to co-sleep. Co-sleeping gets such a bad name because you hear the stories about mothers who did not educate themselves on how to do it safely. But there are more fatalities in crib sleeping than co-sleeping or bed sharing. 4x's more fatalities to be exact. I would rather have my baby right next to me than have him in a whole other room. Unlike what others may believe is that Hudson is great at sleeping on his own in his crib. We have no issues but how amazing it is to be able to bring him into our bed when he's having a hard time sleeping & he sleeps 100x's better with us.
Vaccination: Garrett and I have decided to NOT vaccinate Hudson. We do not believe he needs those vaccinations in him. Especially as a small newborn. Then as a 2 month old needing 6 or so shots? How can a baby's body handle this? We feel so confident in our decision and our pediatrician also supports us in this decision. He isn't anti or pro vaccinations but he has observed that the non-vaccinating children that he sees tend to get sick less than those who are vaccinated and they do not come in to see him as often.
Natural Child Birth: Now I did want to do this before having Hudson. But going into labor...man oh man! I said 45 minutes into it "GIVE ME THE EPIDURAL!" Now I do blame that on the fact that I went into triage at 11:30 am at 4 cm then by 12:30 pm I was at 10 cm! That's a lot of active labor within an hour. I was in labor for maybe 2 hours? I know I have a high tolerance to pain but I tried my hardest to not ask for the epidural. But natural child birth was one of the hardest yet most beautiful experiences I've ever had. I've had Garrett recall Hudson's birth and I sit and say "Wait? That happened?!" Because you go into an inner zone where you are required to draw out this strength you had no clue you had. The difference between medicated labor and natural is with an epidural the dr is running the show. You can't feel the contractions so you need to be told when to push. With my experience I couldn't STOP pushing (granted I only pushed 3 times) to the point that the on call dr had to tell me to please stop pushing. But the natural high and adrenaline rush I had after was amazing. Everyone was like "We'll let you go, you must be so tired." But I was actually really sad everyone was leaving. I wanted them to stay and play cards or something. 5 minutes after giving birth I walked myself to the bathroom and went by myself.
No matter what you're decision as a mother is, DO NOT LET ONE SINGLE PERSON MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU AREN'T DOING THE RIGHT THING. Specifically formula feeding. Why is formula feeding frowned upon? It feeds your baby! It keeps them healthy! It makes them happy! Stop beating yourself up over something that is feeding your baby! It's not breastfed is best. It's not formula feeding is best. It is FED IS BEST. As long as your baby is happy at the end of the day (not meaning that gas pains or allergies means your baby isn't happy) then that is all that matters!
I have been so confident in my decisions as a mother. I would like to lay out my thinking in my mothering instincts so far. I am confident that my Heavenly Father will guide me in motherhood adventures. My Father in Heaven will allow me to know what is best for MY child. Now I must say, I in no way judge any other mother for what they decided is best for their child. I have been judged because people assume I judge them because of my decision. Which hurts because I do profess how amazing my experiences with my decisions have been. But I would NEVER judge another mother for her decisions.
I know I will be judged, talked about, and criticized for the way I parent and raise my son. But I don't care. Because the benefits I have seen from my choices have made motherhood so amazing for me. Let's begin!
Breastfeeding: I was very determined to breastfeed. I prayed my whole pregnancy that I'd be able to breastfeed which gave me the faith that it would DEFINITELY work. Once I began breastfeeding my faith only grew more with how swiftly and amazing my experience was. I had a little bit of a hard time at first but once I was able to get ahold of the amazing Ronnie Peralta who is a retired midwife to come over and help me and give me a few tips and tricks and from then on it was smooth sailing except a few hiccups. Breastfeeding has been one of the biggest blessings I've had through motherhood. Breastfeeding release the happy chemical within yourself and your baby. I plan on breastfeeding my baby until he is 1 but if he doesn't seem to be stopping, then I'm not going to make him stop. Extended breastfeeding is SO judged! But breastmilk is literally liquid gold so if my baby wants it past one, WHY NOT??? LOL.
Co-Sleeping: Co-sleeping is also known as bed sharing. Since day 1 Hudson has slept with me. There is a safe way to co-sleep and there is a stupid/ignorant way to co-sleep. Co-sleeping gets such a bad name because you hear the stories about mothers who did not educate themselves on how to do it safely. But there are more fatalities in crib sleeping than co-sleeping or bed sharing. 4x's more fatalities to be exact. I would rather have my baby right next to me than have him in a whole other room. Unlike what others may believe is that Hudson is great at sleeping on his own in his crib. We have no issues but how amazing it is to be able to bring him into our bed when he's having a hard time sleeping & he sleeps 100x's better with us.
Vaccination: Garrett and I have decided to NOT vaccinate Hudson. We do not believe he needs those vaccinations in him. Especially as a small newborn. Then as a 2 month old needing 6 or so shots? How can a baby's body handle this? We feel so confident in our decision and our pediatrician also supports us in this decision. He isn't anti or pro vaccinations but he has observed that the non-vaccinating children that he sees tend to get sick less than those who are vaccinated and they do not come in to see him as often.
Natural Child Birth: Now I did want to do this before having Hudson. But going into labor...man oh man! I said 45 minutes into it "GIVE ME THE EPIDURAL!" Now I do blame that on the fact that I went into triage at 11:30 am at 4 cm then by 12:30 pm I was at 10 cm! That's a lot of active labor within an hour. I was in labor for maybe 2 hours? I know I have a high tolerance to pain but I tried my hardest to not ask for the epidural. But natural child birth was one of the hardest yet most beautiful experiences I've ever had. I've had Garrett recall Hudson's birth and I sit and say "Wait? That happened?!" Because you go into an inner zone where you are required to draw out this strength you had no clue you had. The difference between medicated labor and natural is with an epidural the dr is running the show. You can't feel the contractions so you need to be told when to push. With my experience I couldn't STOP pushing (granted I only pushed 3 times) to the point that the on call dr had to tell me to please stop pushing. But the natural high and adrenaline rush I had after was amazing. Everyone was like "We'll let you go, you must be so tired." But I was actually really sad everyone was leaving. I wanted them to stay and play cards or something. 5 minutes after giving birth I walked myself to the bathroom and went by myself.
No matter what you're decision as a mother is, DO NOT LET ONE SINGLE PERSON MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU AREN'T DOING THE RIGHT THING. Specifically formula feeding. Why is formula feeding frowned upon? It feeds your baby! It keeps them healthy! It makes them happy! Stop beating yourself up over something that is feeding your baby! It's not breastfed is best. It's not formula feeding is best. It is FED IS BEST. As long as your baby is happy at the end of the day (not meaning that gas pains or allergies means your baby isn't happy) then that is all that matters!
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